Oprah on Resilience: Here’s What She Got Wrong
Recently, Oprah released an “Art of Resilience” edition of O Magazine — centering resilience as the skill women most need right now.
With respect, I see it differently. We don’t need more resilience. What we need is Reclamation. Let me explain…
Unveiling My Journal — A Sacred Share from Me to You
Today, I am doing something I have never done before: sharing an entry from my personal journal. A private conversation with God.
Yes, this feels uncomfortable (to say the least!), but when God insists, I listen.
Today’s video is a direct message to my fellow Black and Brown women walking in leadership. A reminder: we come from lineages of greatness, stamped in our DNA and etched in our souls.
When “Just One More Thing” Becomes Too Much
She looked at me and said, “Damn it, when is enough enough?”
Tears of anger and sadness slipped down her face.
My good friend had been overextending herself for years, pouring out until she was operating in the negative. We had made a pact — a holy pact — to set boundaries and honor them. And yet, we knew the truth: the moment you start saying no, the pushback comes. Especially from those who have grown used to your constant yes.
And here’s the catch — that pushback rarely comes loud or obvious. It comes cloaked in one little word that looks harmless but is deeply misleading: just.
Risk Being “Unreasonable”
There comes a point when “enough” becomes holy. That’s the heart of Unreasonable Reclamation.
As Black women leaders, our journey is layered, both complex and beautiful. It’s filled with both moments of challenge and profound growth. In my latest video, I explore a theme close to my heart: "Unreasonable Reclamation."
We've been taught to fit into molds that aren't ours, often at the cost of our own wellbeing. It's time to shift that narrative.
It’s Reclamation Season
For so many of us as Black women leaders, resilience has often meant learning to adapt to spaces that were never built with us in mind, often layered with the weight of microaggressions and quiet hostilities. And in doing so, how many times have we folded parts of ourselves into silence just to endure?
I’m coming back after a season of deep grief, sadness, frustration, and feeling unmoored. This is my first video in a long while, and it’s the beginning of what I’m calling my Reclamation Season — a season of taking back my time, my boundaries, my wellness, and my sense of self. Reclaiming what was never truly gone… just pushed to the back or covered over for a while.